I’m sure I’ve mentioned it before, but I only really feel nostalgia for a handful of mostly things. I can think of a couple of people who played parts in my history who I’d be happy to see for a coffee or something like that, but the idea of a free-for-all of ALL the people I’ve known showing up at the same place and the same time? That’d be a hard pass.
I went to my ten-year reunion and I quickly knew I’d never go to another one. It was perfectly fine to be there. Thankfully. It was a boat cruise so if it had been horrible, talk about being trapped! and I was never part of a specific group and I had friends here, there and everywhere, but I guess my style of connecting with others (quietly, in very small groups, ideally pairings) revealed itself early on. It has never been fun for me to socialize in groups and I derive little satisfaction from it. There is no ickier a possibility than one in which a large group has been invited and nobody knows exactly who will show up. It’s like party roulette. No, thank you.
As I mentioned, there are a handful of people I would be really happy to see one-on-one, but, by and large, I’m of the belief that if we’d wanted to stay in touch, we probably would have.
I have one friend from high school with whom I still keep in touch and she is my opposite on this topic. She’d attend a reunion every year. She loves them. I just tell her to have a good time and come around for the highlights once it’s done. She’ll say, “remember so-and-so?” Most often my answer is no, but I’ll definitely show up for the stories.
Have you – would you- attend your high school or other reunions? Why? If not, what has kept you away?